Be Patient in Your Search To Find Love

In my encounters with teen girls (14 to 18) as a Clinical Therapist  I am faced with their ambivalent behaviors; which I see as a clear message they are confused about "what is love". They often date men they don't have feelngs for, become pregnant by men they have no true love feelings for, have children with hopes that loving the child will fulfill something that is missing in their life.They devalue male/female relatiionships because they've never seen nor experience a positive one.Struggling with self-love they subconsciously feel they are undeserving of real love.  Underscoring these behaviors, they emotionally struggle with three major questions 1) Where is my father? 2) Did he ever love me? 3) If I connect with him would he love me and could I love him:

LOOKING FOR DADDY'S LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES!
If a young girl never connects or reconnects with her father, or receives a physical promise ring that tells her  he loves her unconditionally, will protect her and give up his life for her, she should not give up. This same message can come in other forms, at another times. She should look for the promise-ring-message from her uncle, grandfather, older brothers, teachers, ministers, social workers or other positive males in her life. The promise-ring-message from this group says God created you, you are worthy, you are intelligent, you are beautiful, you have a purpose in life, you can overcome difficulties and have a right to happiness.

CHOICES

Many teen girls who become pregnant, often feel their lives are doomed. The reality is pregnancy is not the end destination of their life but simply a port of call on their life journey. They should accept and embrace pregnancy if that's their choice. However, they should never give up on finding love, never stop dreaming or believing that they can have and deserve true, unconditional love. They should continue their life journey of self development, accepting the invisible promise-ring-message from those positive males that God has place in their life. By doing this, when someone gives them a physical ring with the promise of "love to death do us part" they will be able to reciprocate that true love...Everyone is deserving of love and companionship. Be patient in your search to find love! by Eric Johnson

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